“THE ICE TOOL” -- STOP NEGATIVE THOUGHTS TO REALIZE SUCCESS!
By Rene’e La Montagne Dunn
They can come from nowhere! They come unannounced, unplanned, unexpected—and are un-welcomed! Our negative thinking patterns can sabotage us at every corner! Learning to have mind control is an art, a skill that demands patience, perseverance and practice.
And unless we are diligent and remain focused, our efforts towards success in this endeavor can be thwarted. But if we are determined to re-train our un-disciplined mind, the rewards can be significant! It has been said, if you do today what you did yesterday, nothing will be different tomorrow. So, if you EXPECT something different, LEARN to THINK something different! DO something different! Practice the skills necessary to keep your life on track by fortifying the navigation panel in your mind.
Thought control is like growing a garden. We have two choices: nourish—or neglect. If we choose to do those things we know will foster strong, hardy flowers, we can expect a beautiful botanical masterpiece. Weeding is not a one-time activity. We must be diligent all through the growing season to care and nurture all that we want to flourish. Likewise, if we choose to be diligent in nourishing our thoughts, we can expect success in all areas: relationships, our financial endeavors, in our spiritual growth, our health and mental well-being, our social life, and our business. When our thoughts become healthy, our attitudes and behaviors will become healthy.
But, as in all things, we are free to choose to neglect the Law of the Harvest. If we do not water, weed, and fortify the garden, we can expect bugs, immature plants, and perhaps no plants at all! The same rule applies in thought control: if we do not pluck the weeds (negative thoughts), and water and fertilize (add positive, dominant thoughts), our garden will be overrun with insecurities, negatives and failure. It is literally impossible to succeed at anything if your thoughts are telling you, “I can’t!” “I’m not smart enough!” “I don’t know how!” “I don’t deserve to succeed!” “I’ve always been a failure; there’s no sense in even trying!”
Learning mind control need not be arduous. If you have been plagued by negative thinking patterns, and find it frustrating and almost impossible to succeed, learning and using the following tool will help you. Unproductive thoughts CAN be ELIMINATED. YOU CAN STOP and re-direct negative thoughts before they control you!
In the VisionLight™ Essentials Quantum Thought Training Course, we teach the ICE TOOL. I C E is an acronym for Identify, Confine, Eliminate.
A few years ago, I had an experience that could have sabotaged my relationship with Jesse (my husband and partner and CEO of this company). I told Jesse that even though we had committed to each other, even though we knew we would be married, the thought of a man I had previously dated kept popping into my mind. Jesse asked me what I wanted from those thoughts. I told him I didn’t want those thoughts—I wanted Jesse—not the other man! So, Jesse taught me to ICE the unwanted thought. He walked me through the process, actually identifying, onfining, and eliminating the thought. Those unwanted thoughts have never reentered my mind! Amazing!
What you think and where you take our thoughts is a choice. When a negative thought pops in, at that very moment YOU HAVE A CHOICE. You can choose to entertain that unproductive thought, nourish it, wallow with it, and continue the negative mind chatter drama. OR you can ICE it, visualize success, replacing the negative with the positive. Your life WILL transform! YOU WILL begin to experience more and more success. You DO have control over what you think! Nourish your mind garden. Visualize and THINK ABOUT success in all areas of your life. You CAN do this! MAKE IT HAPPEN! As you care, tend and nourish your mind garden, your life’s dreams will become reality.
ALL SUCCESS—AND FAILURE—BEGINS WITH THOUGHT! What you think in your mind will become your reality!
When you Light your Vision with vivid clarity and emotion-filled passion, combined with action/motion, the divine forces of the universe conspire to come to your aid to make your vision reality.
by Jesse L. Dunn
VisionLight™ is about seeing from within. VisionLight™ is about creating new neural pathways. We have to think anyway, so think big! VisionLight™ is about dreaming big dreams and becoming that person of purpose and significance who greets life with power, who ACTS instead of being acted upon.
August 28, 1963, a man filled with VisionLight™ stood at the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington D.C. and shared vision. Considered one of the greatest speeches in American history, Martin Luther King, Jr., eloquently articulated his dream that inspired millions:
I am happy to join with you today in what will go down in history as the greatest demonstration for freedom in the history of our nation.
Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand today, signed the Emancipation Proclamation. This momentous decree came as a great beacon light of hope to millions of Negro slaves who had been seared in the flames of withering injustice. It came as a joyous daybreak to end the long night of their captivity.
But one hundred years later, the Negro still is not free. One hundred years later, the life of the Negro is still sadly crippled by the manacles of segregation and the chains of discrimination. One hundred years later, the Negro lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. One hundred years later, the Negro is still languished in the corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land. And so we've come here today to dramatize a shameful condition.
In a sense we've come to our nation's capital to cash a check. When the architects of our republic wrote the magnificent words of the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise that all men, yes, black men as well as white men, would be guaranteed the "unalienable Rights" of "Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." It is obvious today that America has defaulted on this promissory note, insofar as her citizens of color are concerned. Instead of honoring this sacred obligation, America has given the Negro people a bad check, a check which has come back marked "insufficient funds."
But we refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. We refuse to believe that there are insufficient funds in the great vaults of opportunity of this nation. And so, we've come to cash this check, a check that will give us upon demand the riches of freedom and the security of justice.
We have also come to this hallowed spot to remind America of the fierce urgency of Now. This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to make real the promises of democracy. Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice. Now is the time to lift our nation from the quicksands of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood. Now is the time to make justice a reality for all of God's children.
It would be fatal for the nation to overlook the urgency of the moment. This sweltering summer of the Negro's legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning. And those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual. And there will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the Negro is granted his citizenship rights. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges.
But there is something that I must say to my people, who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice: In the process of gaining our rightful place, we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again, we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force.
The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to a distrust of all white people, for many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny. And they have come to realize that their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom.
We cannot walk alone.
And as we walk, we must make the pledge that we shall always march ahead.
We cannot turn back. There are those who are asking the devotees of civil rights, "When will you be satisfied?" We can never be satisfied as long as the Negro is the victim of the unspeakable horrors of police brutality. We can never be satisfied as long as our bodies, heavy with the fatigue of travel, cannot gain lodging in the motels of the highways and the hotels of the cities. **We cannot be satisfied as long as the negro's basic mobility is from a smaller ghetto to a larger one. We can never be satisfied as long as our children are stripped of their self-hood and robbed of their dignity by signs stating: "For Whites Only." We cannot be satisfied as long as a Negro in Mississippi cannot vote and a Negro in New York believes he has nothing for which to vote. No, no, we are not satisfied, and we will not be satisfied until "justice rolls down like waters, and righteousness like a mighty stream."
I am not unmindful that some of you have come here out of great trials and tribulations. Some of you have come fresh from narrow jail cells. And some of you have come from areas where your quest -- quest for freedom left you battered by the storms of persecution and staggered by the winds of police brutality. You have been the veterans of creative suffering. Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive. Go back to Mississippi, go back to Alabama, go back to South Carolina, go back to Georgia, go back to Louisiana, go back to the slums and ghettos of our northern cities, knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed.
Let us not wallow in the valley of despair, I say to you today, my friends.
And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day, down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of "interposition" and "nullification" -- one day right there in Alabama little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, and every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight; "and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together."
This is our hope, and this is the faith that I go back to the South with.
With this faith, we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith, we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith, we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.
And this will be the day -- this will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with new meaning:
My country 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the Pilgrim's pride, From every mountainside, let freedom ring!
And if America is to be a great nation, this must become true.
And so let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire.
Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York.
Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania.
Let freedom ring from the snow-capped Rockies of Colorado.
Let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California.
But not only that:
Let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia.
Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee.
Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi.
From every mountainside, let freedom ring.
And when this happens, and when we allow freedom ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual:
Free at last! Free at last!
Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!
Can you see the image, the vivid picture there? The power you invoke in your sphere will be equally great as you learn the content and tools and practice them over the next few weeks in your VisionLightTM Thought Training course, Light your Vision, and put your dream into motion.
Next to life itself, your greatest gift is free will, the right to direct the life given to you, the right to choose your dominant thoughts. By altering your thoughts, you alter your destiny.
by Jesse L. Dunn
Here’s the grand key: YOU HAVE FREE WILL TO CHOOSE YOUR VISION, which, in turn, becomes your DOMINANT THOUGHTS! Let me say that again: You have free will to choose your Vision which then becomes your dominant thoughts. In other words, YOU ARE THE PROGRAMMER! You select what program you choose to run. You write the code and you choose the patterns. Of course, you can choose the default mode—you may settle for the traditions of your childhood or schooling or upbringing or past experience. Or you may break out of the Tradition Box and learn to write new code for more efficient and better life results. You make the rules for your life. You are the Programmer, not the Program!
You decide which players are allowed on the stage of your mind. By altering your dominant thoughts, you alter your outcomes. What other words you could put in place of the word “outcomes” and still make the statement true? Write in a word you could replace “outcomes” with...
“By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.” “By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.” “By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.” “By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.” “By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.” “By altering my thoughts, I alter my ___________________.”
Here’s another one. Recent studies show that by altering your thoughts you actually change your bio-chemistry. You change the neurotransmitters, the chemical messengers in your brain that play a major role in shaping everyday life and function. By managing our thoughts, it turns out we actually control neurochemical transmissions in the body.
The Mind can be trained to Conceive great and passionfilled Vision. You can rationally choose to Believe in your compelling Vision and deliberately and intentionally direct your dominant thought to generate Behavior/Actions that bring that Vision into reality—to Achieve.
By Jesse L. Dunn
With the Law of Imagination, we picture what we want. With the Law of Personal Responsibility, we take ownership of the pictures our Imagination produces. A third law, the Law of Intention, gives intentional direction and purpose. Imagination without responsibility and intentional direction is just a daydream. Strip your Vision of accountability and purpose, and it is likely that what is left is just a hallucination.
This is an extremely important point that you need to understand. What you see literally (your vision) and how you frame what you see (the light you shed upon it) drives your thinking. Your dominant thinking—those thoughts that occupy the stage of your mind frequently, repetitively and with vivid imagery, intensity—drive your behavior.
Your behaviors are the actions that bring about your future, the reality of your life. The Law of Intention says you can train your Mind to obey your will and desires in this crucial process.
You choose your destiny. Whether consciously or subconsciously, the thoughts you choose today dictate your decisions, feelings, circumstances, attitudes, peace and outcomes in your life.
By Jesse L. Dunn
With the Law of Imagination, we create a Vision, a picture. With the Law of Personal Responsibility, we take ownership of that Vision.
It’s about what you choose to think about, what you decide. Every path you take leads to another choice, and some of those may seem small and insignificant, but they chart the course for choices that change everything. Your destiny hinges on them.
Think about that for a minute. Your destiny hinges upon your choices, even the small, tiny, almost imperceptible ones. Did I choose the donut for breakfast, or something healthier? Did I curse the traffic and choose to elevate my blood pressure, muscle tension and rapid breathing? Or did I choose thoughts more edifying? And what about the kids leaving their rooms so messy that you have to call in a bulldozer to clear a path? Were the thoughts you chose about their never listening to and obeying your instructions really productive?
Are you the Program or the Programmer?
Do you react or do you direct?
Even the small thoughts can translate into big results. It is the little things upon which life turns that make the big difference in our lives. The Law of Personal Responsibility means you choose your destiny by the thoughts with which you constantly and vividly choose to fill your mind.
By Jesse L. Dunn
Thoughts are things. Every great progress in history began as a thought in someone’s imagination.
The Wright brothers imagined flying and the era of air travel was born.
A colony of people imagined a world where all men are created equal, endowed by God with certain inalienable rights including Life, Liberty and the pursuit of happiness—and a great nation was forged into existence.
John Kennedy articulated the collective imagination of his country when he uttered his famous space-race challenge, and within a decade man set foot upon the moon.
Johann Gutenberg, encouraged by Anna Gutenberg’s dream of having a printed Bible, imagined a method and technology unknown in his world, and the printing press changed humankind forever.
“Each time you ‘see’ yourself performing exactly the way you want with perfect form, you physically create neural patterns in your brain.”
- Kay Porter and Judy Foster, The Mental Athlete
Thoughts bathed in Light generate more energy and light. Conversely, thoughts submerged in darkness become evil reality in their own realm.
Lee Harvey Oswald’s imagination led him to assassinate a president; the law of boomerang (aka “karma”) returned and he was assassinated himself.
Joseph Stalin’s imagination led him to lust for power and control; more than 60 million people died as a result of his policies and executions.
Elizabeth Bathory (aka “Countess Dracula”) imagined that the blood of young girls would keep her young and beautiful; her unspeakable cruelty led to the torture and death of more than 650 girls.
For good or ill, our thoughts create the world we see. Imagination is the beginning of the power of creation.
A business starts as a thought in the mind of an entrepreneur.
A marriage begins with a shared sensory-rich picture of happiness together between two people.
Weight-loss can be initiated by the thought of a slim, healthy, trim body.
A career starts with a vivid picture.
Financial prosperity is obtained when thoughts of financial well-being start a process and sequence of events that brings one to the desired destination.
Studies have shown that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish the difference between that which we vividly and frequently imagine and what we experience at the physical reality level. The surgeon Maxwell Maltz observed: “Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a ‘real’ experience. In either case, it reacts automatically to information which you give to it from your forebrain.”
The Law of Imagination is not limited to only mind pictures. You can include the sense of touch, smell, taste, and sound as well as sight. It is not limited to time or space. It can take us long distances in an instant, moving at the speed of thought, according to the principles of bundles of energy known as quanta (the field of quantum physics). It transcends time: We possess the incredible capability of constructing images in the present that can travel ahead in time to govern and create our future. We also have the amazing capacity to travel back in time to past events and renovate our old perceptions or innovate new interpretations about those events, thus obtaining a “new view,” thereby changing our past and altering our present.
Throughout this course, we invite you to Light your Vision, to ignite a life lived by intentional design rather than defaulting to your usual habits, your dominant thinking that may be holding you back.
Is your dream to have more money?
Is it to find the love of your life, your “soul-mate?”
Is it to enjoy great health, to be physically fit?
Is it to increase the ability to smoothly and easily deal with life’s problems?
Is it to change the world through your ideas and service?
A good night’s sleep? More “stuff?” Bigger house? Better family relationships? A contributor in your community? Prosperity, plenty, peace?
One of the foundational laws we must understand and work with whatever your vision, is the Law of Imagination.
CHOOSE TO HEAL TODAY! YOU ARE IN THE ARMS OF THE ONE WHO LOVES YOU MOST!
By Rene’e La Montagne Dunn
We all feel broken at some time or another. There is hope. OUR LORD AND SAVIOR would not leave us without hope… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDLmimXRQWQ
by Kerry Roesser
On the night of Dec. 12, 1994, in Madison, Wisconsin, Theresa J. McGovern froze to death in a snow bank. She was 45 years old and the mother of two young girls. That night she walked out of a facility where she had been admitted to treat the disease of alcoholism. She left, drank alcohol, passed out and died. She froze to death in a parking lot, in the snow, alone. Her father was former representative and senator, George McGovern. McGovern had a long, successful political career. In 1972 he ran as the Democratic candidate for the United States presidency. He ran and lost against Richard Nixon.
Reportedly, McGovern adored his daughter, Terry. Although she was one of five children, he admitted to having a special affinity for her. Prior to her death, Terry had been in treatment for alcoholism 68 times, yet McGovern and his wife persisted in their support. Finally, after years of being lectured by clinicians and mental health professionals about needing to practice “tough love” and to stop “enabling” their daughter, McGovern and his wife decided to follow the expert advice and limit their contact with Terry. They were told that this would allow her to reach her “bottom”. Sadly, Terry McGovern’s’ bottom was death. Following Terry’s death, McGovern set out to find the research that supported the advice he heeded. He was unable to find any research.
Many addiction treatment professionals ascribe to the theory that loved ones must practice “tough love” in order to create a scenario that forces a person into treatment for substance dependence. There is no research that supports this practice. In fact, addiction experts William J. White and William Miller examined the use of confrontation used for addiction as far back as 2007.
In their article, “The Use of Confrontation in Addiction Treatment: History, Science and Time for Change”, they state that, “In almost every case, if not in every case, confrontations were aggressive and when implemented had poorer outcomes then doing nothing.” So, why do professionals continue to promote this as the most effective intervention? Is it simply a reckless concept that is habitually touted by misinformed professionals? The answer is not clear, yet what is becoming increasing clear is that “tough” love is not helpful.
According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of tough love is:
love or concern that is expressed in a strict way, especially to make someone behave responsibly. A strict way? What does that mean? Make a person behave responsibly? How is that possible? As therapists we are taught that we are not able to make anyone behave in any way. A person’s behavior is the responsibility of that person and that person alone. This is a foundation of human rights and responsibilities. If we could force a person to a bottom that allowed them to make the choice to stop using and to engage in treatment, then couldn’t we force a person to stop drinking or using by allowing them to see the wonderful life that they could have? We know the answer to that and the answer is no.
If addiction were not a disease, then the answer might be yes. However, addiction is a disease. We cannot “enable” because we are not in “the driver seat”. Just as we cannot disable, we cannot enable. Our all-consuming, unconditional love won’t stop an addict, so why do we believe that “tough” love will? The only thing that will stop an addict is THE addict. This doesn’t mean that we don’t set boundaries. Boundaries are for us. It is a way to keep one’s sanity in the face of insanity. Taking money out of the hands of an addict is not tough love. It is common sense. No, you cannot have your twenty-two-year-old shooting dope in his bedroom with his younger sister in the next room. Not allowing that behavior is a boundary. Setting boundaries is something we owe to ourselves and to the people with whom we interact.
So, how do we begin to set boundaries? We begin by believing that we have worth. We stop allowing people to say and do things that do not feel right to us. These situations may cause us to question ourselves or enhance our feelings of worthlessness. They may pray on our insecurities. So, no, it never made sense if you were asked by your child, husband, partner or whomever to lie for them, or to give them money to illegally or legally buy drugs. Saying no to those requests are part of holding a boundary and your actions may or may not stop that person from using, but that is not why we hold boundaries. Boundaries are essential to mental health. Using is a choice that he or she will make, but setting clear boundaries is your choice. (and, yes, picking up is a choice.
The compulsivity that is the essential element of the disease comes into play after the person engages in any compulsive behavior. The disease is in remission when the behaviors end and the client is being treated). There are ways to begin the withdrawal from the insanity in order to begin to have peace of mind. You can begin to regain your sense of self. If you are not strong and stable and well, then you cannot put on the oxygen mask for the person you love. The strength you build is what will “enable” your loved one, who is in the throes of addiction. This “enabling” is healthy as it “enables” one to begin to see that they can get better. As they watch you grow and strengthen, they can draw from that strength. However, even if we show unconditional love for ourselves and for the people in our lives and even if we set boundaries, we still may not be able to “raise” that proverbial bottom. Even if we have done all that you can do, our loved one may not recover. It is out of your hands and nothing you do or don’t do will do much to change the outcome. So, get healthy and do what you can live with so that you can be there for whomever may need you on this journey, most importantly- you.
In conclusion, substance use dependence is an insidious disease that we are only beginning to understand. However, the predominant milieu for addiction treatment postulates that an addict must reach his or her “bottom” in order to recognize that he or she needs help. Since it is understood that we cannot force an addict to his or her “bottom”, then we must understand that we can have little effect on the way an addict reaches that depth. We have no definition of this concept because it is individualized. We do know that it is not of our making. However, we are able to define love. We know that love is patient. We understand that love is kind and that it is not boastful. It is omniscient, meaning that love knows all things. Since we know what love is, then we must agree with what love is not. Love is not tough.
LINK TO THIS TED TALK
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– Rene’e La Montagne Dunn, VP Marketing, New View Concepts
Well, folks, even those of us who have been trained and grounded in the use of thought controlling skills and tools can be blindsided if we are not mindful. Surprisingly, I was just recently sabotaged by negative thinking patterns. But this heart-wrenching experience brought a new realization, a new perspective, a new beginning, new insights, and a new view. For that, I am so grateful!
I was an emotional mess before I learned the tools taught in both the VisionLight™ Thought Training Course, and the GO Broken to Beautiful emotional healing course. Like so many of us round the world, I, too, have experienced trauma: two rapes as a child/teen, abandonment, mental, emotional, physical abuse, and…overwhelming feelings of “not good enough.” I thought I had addressed and processed those painful memories, and was flitting about my merry way, when BAM! A “trigger “opened the flood gates to massive thought annihilation. I watched the cinema play out in my mind’s eye the ugly scenes that had previously plagued my being. I saw the details, felt the feelings, and plummeted further and further into a deep, dark hole without even realizing it. It all happened so quickly—and within an hour or so, the foreboding thoughts in my mind held me captive. The dark clouds corralled me; I also felt the shame, the guilt, and the sadness that came from making poor choices earlier in my life. The storms raged inside my heart and mind and I wanted to crawl away into oblivion.
I didn’t even THINK to use the skills I had learned! I didn’t even THINK to WANT to pull myself out of the hole! I WANTED to wallow. I wanted to grieve and feel justified in my thought choices, “I am not good enough.” My thoughts were spinning out of control and I chose to hold myself captive as a victim once again.
BUT…as we teach in the VisionLight™ Thought Training courses, and ESPECIALLY in the GO Broken to Beautiful course, it is wise and highly recommended that we walk through the lessons with someone we can trust, someone who can hold us accountable, someone who would never use our “weaknesses” or sad experiences against us, someone who can remind us of skills and tools learned, someone who truly has our best interest in mind.
My husband Jesse came to the rescue. He asked me what was going on in my head. My hands covered my face as I sobbed in the midst of the storm. In his great wisdom and out of his tender love for me, he held my hand, and together we sat quietly for a bit. Jesse then turned on the TV and cued up one of the very videos I had personally prepared for our GO Broken to Beautiful online and live classes. As soon as I heard the music from the video, my heart leapt, and I immediately STOPPED the negative deluge, and healthy, nourishing thoughts began flooding into my brain. I regained control and exercised the tools I learned to direct my thinking. The storm quieted. I quickly came up for air.
Jesus Christ had already paid the price for all this! I was not a victim! I was a VICTOR! I HAD overcome all the self-incriminating thoughts and all the horrible feelings and memories that had once chained me and swallowed me into nothingness.
As the video unfolded, deep feelings of gratitude filled my soul. The thought control skills and tools I had learned through my own thought training once again demolished the evil self-inflicted shackles that bound me. My heart rejoiced. I thanked my God that He had so quickly lifted that which could have held me down in a deep and unrelenting depression.
I learned much through this experience. First, I have a God that loves me NO MATTER what I have done, no matter where I have been, no matter what life has thrown at me. Secondly, I learned that unless I am truly mindful and practice these skills and use these tools consistently, Satan will employ whatever weaknesses or memories I carry to sabotage my progress—through my very own thoughts!
I put a note on my bathroom mirror that reads, “Remember who you are!” lest I forget again the lessons that keep me from sabotaging my own sanity and serenity. When I see the note, I remind myself, I am a daughter of God; I am valuable, I am capable, I am loved, I am forgiven, and I CAN CHOOSE to stop and eliminate negative, unwanted, unproductive, paralyzing thoughts and chatter in my own head.
This experience gave me reason to review all I had learned through these marvelous uplifting and mind-liberating courses. I have the ability to be who I CHOOSE TO BE by purposely directing my future on purpose, with purpose.
All is well….and I walk as a Victor once again.
...for all practical purposes, we choose everything we do, including the misery we feel. Other people can neither make us miserable nor make us happy. All we can get from them or give to them is information. But by itself, information cannot make us do or feel anything. It goes into our brains, where we process it and then decide what to do... we choose all our actions and thoughts and, indirectly, almost all our feelings and much of our physiology. - William Glasser, M.D., world-renowned psychiatrist
I share with you the video Jesse so thoughtfully shared with me that day…the video that I had prepared FOR YOU originally, that, ironically, came to my own rescue! I am confident these thoughts and principles will help you on your own journey of becoming.
With Infinite Love and Gratitude,
Rene’e La Montagne Dunn
PS LET ME KNOW IF THIS SHORT VIDEO HELPS YOU…..MY PRAYERS GO WITH….
Here’s a warm and, in my opinion, absolutely incredible story that happened just a few weeks ago as an 8-year-old girl entered the Christmas season. It takes place in Vancouver, Washington, and involves a young lady from a family of five kids and two parents who are teachers—not a wealthy family in terms of the riches of the world, by any means. It is best told through two letters she wrote to Santa Claus, in her own words, punctuation, and spelling.
Dear Santa Clause,
I have been good this year! Most of the time! Some things I would appreciate for Christmas are lots of coats to give to kids who don’t have any. Plus food to give to them to. Also medicene to help them when their ill. Don’t forget umbrellas and blankets! Another thing is some toys for them. I would only like 1 thing for me. A Rubix cube! I understand if you can’t do those things. I’ll just have to do food and coat drives.
Now, I don’t know about you, but when I was eight-years-old, I gave nary a thought to anyone but myself (I wanted Remco Science Kits, which Santa mysteriously found in his bag of toys to leave that year…); I had essentially zero awareness of “kids who don’t have any…” and even if I did, my maturity was limited to what we at New View Concepts call First Paradigm of the Mind approach to things—very self-centered. This young girl naturally operated in the Third Paradigm of the Mind. That she had not only awareness of but also a desire to help those who had very little is astonishing and says much about her character and the training from her parents.
Second, where and when did she gain the understanding that if Santa couldn’t deliver on her request, “I’ll just have to do food and coat drives.”? As adults acquainted with the real world, we know that “If it is to be, it’s up to me…” But an 8-year-old kid?
The rest of the story is equally heart-warming. She didn’t wait for Santa. Helped by her parents, she organized a coat drive and got the community involved in something that blessed the lives of both givers and receivers. Here is her second letter to Santa, letting him know the status of things so that he wouldn’t duplicate effort.
If you ever get my letter please know we got the coat thing handled. People have been bringing a lot more coats than we expected. We have about 300 coats. Possibly even more! Lots of people should be on the NICE LIST. So the only thing we need is food to give away.
P.S. I decided I don’t really need the Rubix cube.
She had a vision, an earnest desire. She determined she would “Light that Vision.” It became a goal which she acted upon. She solicited help from those around her. She systematized processes. She reported back. And she succeeded! Her instinctive understanding of the Essential-Simple-Accountable model that we teach at NVC is wonderful and serves to teach us who look at her example.
What is your Vision in 2019? I am motivated by the standard set by an eight-year-old to elevate my thinking and actions to a higher level. What about you?
Meanwhile, stay strong, see the change and Light your Vision!
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